Kill the “Slut”

While on Twitter yesterday, I noticed a tweet by a Soror of mine that I follow.

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It said “Teen sluts on tyra #priceless”… followed by another tweet saying  “Girl says she’s been trickin since 14 she been  raped But she’s proud of it #priceless”…  And that is exactly what I was waiting for. The incidence of abuse. I knew there simply had to be some incident of abuse.

Anyone willing to get on national television to speak on their sexual exploits is either a survivor, or a victim. Don’t be fooled – whenever you find yourself ready to call a girl a dumb slut, think of how we as Americans have already sexualized our youth to groom them into “sluts”. Think about how we have likely silenced whatever voice this victim might have had by our decision to call her a slut.  Before we wonder why young women aren’t exercising more caution in their behavior, let us ask ourselves “who is left to raise them?” When girls get raped at supervised school activities on school grounds, who are we to blame but ourselves when their peers stand by and watch? What do we, as a community, expect to come of the victims if we don’t fight to turn them into survivors?

While discussing the 2 1/2 hour gang rape with one of my girlfriends, almost immediately, she started asking me “why on earth was that girl drinking? what an idiot to go down into an alley with a group of boys – why was she so fast?” My question – is why won’t we take responsibility?  Why are we rebuking teen victims for their decisions when we won’t take responsibility for their upbringing and protection?  Parents need to take responsibility. Communities need to take responsibility. Other teenagers need to take responsibility.

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When one girl gets abused, choosing not to get involved so as not to overstep boundaries is a passive aggressive way of saying you don’t care. You’re saying that you believe in living on an island. You’re saying that you think you are impervious to disarray and disorder is permissible, so long as it doesn’t directly interfere with your personal life.

When one girl gets abused, turning a blind eye, or telling her she’s strong, without offering support, or telling her to tough it out, is a passive aggressive way of saying “Fuck it. Rape my daughter.”

So I urge us all to Kill the “slut” – as in, kill that term. Gouge it out of your vocabulary. If the girl you are referring to is a “slut” as you see it, ask yourself – what can I do to help this budding woman become a SURVIVOR and grow from being a lingering VICTIM? Call to arms. Let’s get to work

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